把朋友圈关掉的那些天

进入八月不久,我就关掉了朋友圈。在那之前很久,我已经取消了朋友圈信息更新的提示红点,而这一次,我是彻底地、从设置里关闭了这项功能。

两个原因。一个是朋友圈里的气氛会对我造成无价值的困扰,消费了我的精力和情绪;另一点是它极大的消耗了我为数不算多的碎片时间,而我本可以用这些时间学习更结构化的知识的。

萌生这个想法已经是数月以前的事情,但我总害怕丢失热门信息,无法follow朋友的动向,因此下不了决心。而促成我下这个决定的,则是《精进》里的一句话。

对泛滥的资讯保持警惕,把更多的目光投向那些被“时间之尺”筛选过的经典作品上,可以避免无谓的躁动。从心智的成长层面上讲,这种“复古”也恰是最有效率的。你不如想象,和那些历史上的杰出人物做朋友,就如同把他们加为微信好友,每天捧读他们的作品,就如同刷朋友圈,这时你或许会发现,这个朋友圈丝毫不比你现实好友的朋友圈无趣,甚至更加引人入胜。

是啊,没有那么多事情必须知道,且不论各种低价值信息,大部分的热门新闻也只能维持2-3天的热度,错过了也没有什么损失,现在还有人在讨论英国脱欧吗?朋友动态更不是那么重要的事情,比起别人买了一个包,去了哪里旅游,把时间投在关注自己的成长和内心上明显更值得。

关掉朋友圈以后,我的时间大量的投到了阅读上。不到一个月的时间里我看完了三本书,还有两本书看完了大半,一本看了小半。如果是平时,我很可能一本都看不完。通过阅读,我能感觉到自己坚硬的大脑被撬动,脚踩到湿润的泥土里长出了根,在忙碌的同时还能感觉到幸福和满足。某一天遛狗的时候,我抬头看了看星空,猛然发现自己已经很久没有做这个动作了。在拥有智能手机之前,我在夜晚会习惯性的看看星空,从宇宙汲取短暂的愉悦与宁静。而有了智能手机以后,我的生活除了忙碌,就是下拉,刷新,下拉,刷新。

我的情绪也变得更平静了。不用看同事在朋友圈拍须遛马,不用看项目发了篇文章大家都在同事分组里积极转发,不用看暴发户炫富,心机boy刷加班。我知道有人会说,你可以不在意这些呀。但我的内心没有那么强大,还是容易受外界干扰。那么,就用适合自己的方式隔离起来,不也挺好的吗?没有必要假装坚强,整天给自己做心理辅导也很消耗能量的呢。

不用朋友圈的日子里,我会去没几个朋友的微博,或者instagram上发一些状态和图片,记录自己的生活。 说来有趣,从twitter大火到人人发微博时,我完全不是用户,当时的微博太嘈杂,有价值的内容被严重稀释。反而是在人们逃离微博、走向朋友圈的日子里,我开始使用它。因为如今沉淀下来的,是更优质的账号和内容。而且因为没有那么多的强关系在看,在微博上更新也没有朋友圈里表演自己生活的感觉,更自由,更放松。

二十多天过去了,我没有把这个功能重新开启的打算。我当时也没想到一个小小的开关能吞噬掉那么多的精力和时间。其实,并没有那么多紧急的非要处理的信息,也没有那么多热门到非要知道的信息,更没有那么多不知道就落伍了的知识。关掉RTX,屏蔽朋友圈,少刷知乎,斩掉不必要的羁绊,排除无用干扰,这样才能有成片的时间去进行结构化学习,深入思考,关注内心。还在等电梯时刷朋友圈吗?不妨试试看用一两分钟的时间看几页书吧。

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